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Last Saturday, my friend Jessica and I decided to hit up a new brunch spot that just opened in town. As we scanned the trendy menu, we noticed a quirky setup: a group of folks dressed in ‘80s workout gear doing aerobics while serving pancakes. In the middle of the cheerful chaos was a tall, muscular person rocking a leotard and leg warmers, flipping pancakes like a pro. After a few minutes of watching in awe, Jess leaned over and whispered, “OMG, I think that person is giving me life! They’re so fabulous!”
Just as I turned to agree, the person caught sight of us and flashed a dazzling smile. As my jaw dropped to the floor, Jess, who had somehow missed the subtle signs, exclaimed, “I’m totally going to ask her for fitness tips!” With an eyebrow raised, I gently pointed out, “Jessica… that’s a dude.” The look on her face was priceless, more stunned than when she accidentally double-dipped her chips into the salsa. “Well, that explains the six-pack!” she laughed, and from then on, brunch was filled with laughter and debates on the best workout strategies from “that dude.”
F
*When you’re one of the girls* 💅🤭🤪💃✨ *When you’re not one of the girls* 🕴️😶🌫️🫥
1
Yeah I’m the only guy in my office that is happily married and I am absolutely one of the girls. The stuff they share in front of me would have appalled me when I was single LOL. It’s honestly nice though, everyone can just kinda speak freely.
S
Don’t leave us hanging
D
Mike in accounting definitely isn’t hanging. Girl, don’t waste your time. Plus his head game is trash. The dinner was nice! 😆
B
Why’s gender matter in this context? They’re just socialising, or is there some other implication here?
F
I can’t pretend to know exactly why; but my assumption here is the women felt safe expressing compliments and keeping a sexual atmosphere around someone they thought was another woman because they assume they weren’t going to be judged/ harassed/ sexualized in a way they didn’t want. When they saw it was a man, the social context changed; not because the people changed but because the social pressure, safety, and expectations did from their perspective.
D
I have been to a strip club a couple of times in my life. I always been with a group but when it was just guys the women had the glazed look just doing work. It was an entirely different experience when a female was with. One time we set in the middle of perv row and my female friend was having a great time. So every dancer when they would come to dance in front of us faces just lit up. Eyes had a different expression and you can tell they generally enjoyed it.
H
I went to a strip club with a group one time, about half and half guy and girls. I asked one girl if she wanted to pretend we were a couple trying to spice up our relationship with a lap dance, and she was down. The stripper was totally fine with us touching lol, which was a first for me. The night got better from there.
D
Don’t leave us hanging…
L
What social pressure? They were the only ones there!
K
Omfg whyyyyy can’t we just admit it’s all fucking fake?? Gender is such a fucking construct.
N
They dont even know the Person and acted Like Dicks. They liked what they saw but a man is a No No lol
H
I am going to assume they wouldn’t have acted so goofy in front of a dude than they would when its just the girls. As a guy, i don’t normally act a goofy in front of random women as i would with the bros.
R
At an old job of mine the boss treated the team to a weekend vacations in a mansion with a pool, jacuzzi and volleyball court at the Hamptons, the attending party of people was something like 25 women and 3 guys, myself, one other guy and the boss. The majority were in their mid 20s, early 30s. I was kind of taken aback at just how sexually charged/flirty everyone was during that weekend. I and the other guy supposedly passed the vibe check and didn’t really engage with all of that and just kind of hung out, so I guess they felt comfortable doing their thing. They were all playing grab ass, talking crazy and getting pretty down with each other when they were dancing. At least as far as you might expect from a trip with your coworkers. Not like in a “we’re gonna sleep together” kind of way, just like girls having fun I suppose would be the best way to put it. Might not be an answer necessarily, but I can attest that at least in my experience there’s some truth to this, when guys are involved the atmosphere changes a bit and if the numbers were more evenly split I doubt they would have been going wild the way they were when it was just 2 dudes vibing and not really messing with the energy. Just a personal experience I thought seemed relevant.
W
He said DAYYYYYUM to the twerking when she just wanted to have fun and not be reacted to like that
M
Cold blooded
S
It wasnt meant to be an insult to the guy. They were just surprised.
K
This is like parks and rec when the congressman thought Chris tregor was a woman and then said oh he’s just a very handsome man.
F
“Beautiful man”
S
“Chris, your codename is ‘If I Had To Pick a Dude.’ Ben will be… ‘Eagle 2.'” “Oh thank God”
L
Leslie…it happened once in a dream
B
She went to sal’s
D
*Emotional damage*
P
But really pretty one!
E
Why not, he’s gorgeous!?
S
They were expecting another girl is all. NABD.
A
“Duuuuude, looks like a lady”
M
Anhhaa Annnhhhaa
B
Such a great song! I wonder if Aerosmith could do a good cover of it…?
1
That’s us, fuckhead.
G
Always wondered what Trevor Lawrence is up to in the off-season
S
He’s cute
R
I mean, they’re definitely passable either way lol
C
The hair band thing is doing 90% of the job. Have never seen a dude wear one.
H
I’ve seen it on dudes with medium hair in the gym. Hair that’s not quite long enough to put it in a pony tail, but still long enough to get in your face and eyes when you bend over and stand up.
H
Well we know what generations you *didn’t* grow up in, lol.
X
Nahh they lost me
T
Machine Gun Kelli
L
They called him n***a !?
L
Surprise number 2 when they find out he’s white
K
Woman on the left way too comfortable dropping that around other people.
L
What do you mean ‘other people’ That’s mildly racist /s
S
Seeing her friend a black woman.. Both of them probably used to that word waay comfortably lol
O
Kim Kekkonen 🍞🍞🍞🍞🍞🍞🍞
E
Its over. Whip out the skirt and thighhighs.
C
Sad that it would matter.
K
This is why the labels are so important to them. They need to be able to tell at a glance how to treat you. Don’t want to accidentally treat you like a group you like when you’re actually part of the group you were taught to hate while growing up.
C
Who‘s „them/they“ and aren’t those labels as well?
K
It’s a pronoun often used for a group of people. Like a group of bigots.
O
Bigot is also a label.
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